Allies in Recovery: A Weekend Workshop for Sexual Abuse Survivors and their Partners

With Mike Lew and Thom Harrigan

April 25 - 27, 2025

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Date and Time Details: Check in is on Friday from 4:00 pm to 6:00 pm. Program will begin with dinner on Friday at 6:00 pm and will end after lunch on Sunday at 1:00 pm.

Location: Nelson Lodge

Address: 3501 Valley View Drive, Bangor, PA, USA

Contact: Janet Lewis
janetl@kirkridge.org

  • Nelson Lodge Couple Room (per person) – $347.50

Please note that as this is a retreat meant for couples, you will need to register for both people. To do this, please select "Couple Room" and a new drop-down box labeled "Number of Guests" will appear. Please select the number 2.

It is required that all participants be fully vaccinated.

The long-term and often painful process of recovery from sexual abuse has profound effects on relationships. Partners and survivors experience a parallel process of understanding the nature of abuse, its effects on the survivor and the couple, and the requirements of healing. Lack of information and understanding on both sides cause great strain on the couple.

This weekend workshop is designed for couples where one or both of the partners is a non-offending survivor of sexual child abuse, rape, physical violence, emotional abuse and/or neglect. It is open to heterosexual, gay, lesbian, and non-binary couples in committed relationships.

Our goal is to offer a safe, encouraging environment of healing for each partner and the couple.

The weekend will provide a variety of healing activities, including the sharing of stories, writing exercises, anger work and other emotional expression, small group discussion, relaxation, creativity, and yes, even fun.

There will be time for work within the couple as well as individual and small group gatherings just for survivors or just for partners.

Survivors will be able to do their own healing work while learning ways of improving communication with people who care about them. They will come to understand stressors experienced by their partners, and how stepping out of isolation will improve their recovery and their relationship.

Partners will be encouraged to explore and express the challenges they face being in a loving relationship with a survivor and how to practice self care while more effectively supporting and getting support from their partner. Like the survivor, they will begin to move beyond their own isolation toward more effective communication and a healthier, more satisfying relationship.

About the Leaders

Mike Lew

Mike Lew is the author of Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse. 

Learn more about Mike Lew

Thom Harrigan

Thom leads groups for male survivors and has worked extensively in the field of recovery from childhood sexual abuse.

Learn more about Thom Harrigan

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